Is There any Good Way to Reject this Guy?(Help me please)
So there's this guy...
A bit of a background check: One of my best friends, her name is Alex, has been friends with this guy, Ethan, for at least 2 years. But recently, he developed a crush on me, and i really don't want to get into a relationship. This probably seems simple, but actually, it gets somewhat worse.
Alex and I walk around all the time and occasionally we walk with Ethan who has a voice deeper than God like i swear imagine Darth Vader mixed with Batman and that's his voice. Honestly its terrifying but awesome at the same time. Anyway, she wasn't supposed to tell me this but after repeatedly getting hinted i got a bit annoyed and had to ask. After receiving confirmation i really don't want to do this.
Ethan very recently got dumped by his now ex-girlfriend literally on Monday(1/26/15) . He's taken a fancy towards me, and even admitted to Alex that he's had that feeling for a while now.
The thing is, is that I would never date this guy in my life.
Yea, yea, i know that probally made me sound like the most spoiled brat on earth but it's true. He's not my 'type' in any way, shape, or form, and I'm not even looking to have a relationship in High School. Like at all.
Now i've known Ethan for about a month and we don't know squat about each other but Alex said that he should text me in order to do that. So he texts me and apparently, i'm a turn on.
Lord help me.
Alex also told him to wait a week before he asked me out. So i have counts on fingers 3 days until he pops the question. And i'm going to say, " No. "
But i need a really nice way of saying it.... He's been through a very recent breakup so i would literally just be his cushion. He's so nice and his voice is amazing, but i just wouldn't go out with him. Ever.
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Here's my reasoning:
- I don't enjoy being someone's cushion for their lost relationship
- I don't like the guy in a more than friends way
- He hasn't even gotten to know me, its been a bit less than a month for god sakes!!
- I don't want a relationship in High School. Because once i graduate in Senior year, dude, i'm GONE. Like I am not living in the town, or any of the neighboring towns, i'm in right now, and i've got that settled. I know what colleges i'm going to try for, i'm planning where i'm going to move(and not that play planning, i'm legit looking at pros' and cons' of being in (insert state here) the taxes, how safe it is, estimated home cost.) like I am seriously not staying here. So it would be pointless to even have a relationship when i know i'm going to have to end it eventually. Only one guy is an exception- mainly because he's a traveler himself and we get along amazingly.
- I'm semi-scared of him. And we all know thats never good in a relationship
- HE'S KIND'VE STALKING ME ITS SCARY
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Thats some of the reasons i have of why i don't want to go out with this guy, I know one of you is going to say " Oh well one date can't hurt! " Uh, yea, it can. Trust me dude, i've watched it happen.
So what i'm asking guys is, is there anyway that I can make this rejection better for him?
Man, i sound spoiled...
Please help me guys i don't know what i'm doing or how i should even go with this
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I have gotten reserved for the squaredancing unit.... By the slightly creepy Einstein farmer kid
For my other squaredancing unit in my other gym class, my partner has left me because of a schedule change to where he doesn't have gym anymore. Damn you Mr W, damn you....
I'm recovering from a concussion!
Soccer season is starting up! high pitched squealling
The traveler kid(the one who i would actually consider dating) and I have become Alex's OTP (One True Pair) and she's writing a fanfiction i kid you not
But seriously guys help me on this i don't know what to do
Alex and I walk around all the time and occasionally we walk with Ethan who has a voice deeper than God like i swear imagine Darth Vader mixed with Batman and that's his voice. Honestly its terrifying but awesome at the same time. Anyway, she wasn't supposed to tell me this but after repeatedly getting hinted i got a bit annoyed and had to ask. After receiving confirmation i really don't want to do this.
Ethan very recently got dumped by his now ex-girlfriend literally on Monday(1/26/15) . He's taken a fancy towards me, and even admitted to Alex that he's had that feeling for a while now.
The thing is, is that I would never date this guy in my life.
Yea, yea, i know that probally made me sound like the most spoiled brat on earth but it's true. He's not my 'type' in any way, shape, or form, and I'm not even looking to have a relationship in High School. Like at all.
Now i've known Ethan for about a month and we don't know squat about each other but Alex said that he should text me in order to do that. So he texts me and apparently, i'm a turn on.
Lord help me.
Alex also told him to wait a week before he asked me out. So i have counts on fingers 3 days until he pops the question. And i'm going to say, " No. "
But i need a really nice way of saying it.... He's been through a very recent breakup so i would literally just be his cushion. He's so nice and his voice is amazing, but i just wouldn't go out with him. Ever.
~~~~~~~
Here's my reasoning:
- I don't enjoy being someone's cushion for their lost relationship
- I don't like the guy in a more than friends way
- He hasn't even gotten to know me, its been a bit less than a month for god sakes!!
- I don't want a relationship in High School. Because once i graduate in Senior year, dude, i'm GONE. Like I am not living in the town, or any of the neighboring towns, i'm in right now, and i've got that settled. I know what colleges i'm going to try for, i'm planning where i'm going to move(and not that play planning, i'm legit looking at pros' and cons' of being in (insert state here) the taxes, how safe it is, estimated home cost.) like I am seriously not staying here. So it would be pointless to even have a relationship when i know i'm going to have to end it eventually. Only one guy is an exception- mainly because he's a traveler himself and we get along amazingly.
- I'm semi-scared of him. And we all know thats never good in a relationship
- HE'S KIND'VE STALKING ME ITS SCARY
~~~~~~~
Thats some of the reasons i have of why i don't want to go out with this guy, I know one of you is going to say " Oh well one date can't hurt! " Uh, yea, it can. Trust me dude, i've watched it happen.
So what i'm asking guys is, is there anyway that I can make this rejection better for him?
Man, i sound spoiled...
Please help me guys i don't know what i'm doing or how i should even go with this
~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~
Other news in the world of Olivia!
I have gotten reserved for the squaredancing unit.... By the slightly creepy Einstein farmer kid
For my other squaredancing unit in my other gym class, my partner has left me because of a schedule change to where he doesn't have gym anymore. Damn you Mr W, damn you....
I'm recovering from a concussion!
Soccer season is starting up! high pitched squealling
The traveler kid(the one who i would actually consider dating) and I have become Alex's OTP (One True Pair) and she's writing a fanfiction i kid you not
But seriously guys help me on this i don't know what to do
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I know how you're feeling. I know someone who was super nice to me and called me beautiful, sweet, fun, and cool and he asked me out 3 times. I had to keep rejecting him sweetly but he thought I didn't want to date him at that moment so he kept asking me out. Just say "No, I'm not interested. I dont want to date right now, I hope we can be friends. See you around :)" I suck at advice though. XD It's okay to say no! Good luck! :)
Tell him you just don't want to interfere with his relationship with ur friend
Say exactly what you wrote here. Say that you're moving, it would be pointless, and that he's just not your type. No matter what you say, he'll get hurt. Don't worry about it. It's not like it will ruin his life. Good luck! :))
You don't sound spoiled. You sound like someone who doesn't want to be a person who she's on known for a month's rebound. There's nothing wrong with that. I think you should just tell him no. Message me how it goes/went. :) Good luck
Just outright say "No." I don't get why people don't think "No" is a proper answer. If you don't want to date him, don't date him. If he's really a good guy, he'll understand. But if he's like stalking you, then he's probably not the type of guy that'll understand, so maybe you should just full-on tell him to go away and leave you alone. If he gets mad at you for not dating him, then he definitely wasn't a good enough person for you to date anyways, and you deserve better than him.
Just tlak to him. Get it straight in his head that you do not want to go out with him. Tell him your not intrested and if he keeps on stalking you blow him off. Most guys are like that but once they get it through their thick skull that you don't like them they tend to leave you alone.
Just tell him that your not planning on dating in highschool and that your moving once you get out of highschool. He should respect you enough to take that and leave, but if he doesnt then he is almost for sure not a good guy, and you can tell him more reasons without worrying so much about his feelings until he backs off.
If this guy is being stalkery, just flat out say 'Im not interested in you, sorry" the Sorry is optional. Yips good that you already know your are going to say no. Perhaps say something like "I don't want to be in a relationship". If he keeps coming after you, you need to get rid of him completely. So he's had a breakup? Being someone's cushion is not fun, unless they like him back. Which you don't. So just tell him. I'm not very helpful, sorry >_<
Just say no. Be blunt with it, especially if you mean it, if you beat around the bush, he might get the "wrong" idea. So just a simple no, will do just fine.
Tell him you don't want to date anyone right now. That's a legit reason.
I don't want to sound like I'm a big bit.ch, but I've had to turn down guys that have taken a liking to me for literally the same reasons as you. I do not want to have to worry about a guy when I really want to make sure I'm putting my all into my education.